September 2016

Like a Little Child

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You know how it goes. You’ve left your child in childcare somewhere (your church, your homeschool co-op, your MOPS group), and walked away despite the tears and cries and outstretched arms calling you back.

Then, halfway through your event, the unthinkable happens: Circumstances conspire to require you to walk past the room your child is in.

Oh, no. Please, not that.

But it can’t be avoided. So you do one of two things: either you run past that door like you’re Usain Bolt, or you drop to the ground before you can be seen by anybody inside, crawl past the room—way past—then stand up, flatten yourself against the wall, and edge a few feet farther away before you resume walking normally down the middle of the hall.

Because you know what would happen if you didn’t. If your child saw you, it would all be over. The wailing would begin, and this time, it wouldn’t stop. And you’d have to pick up your child and leave early.

You don’t even want to speak above a whisper if you’re anywhere close to the door, because if your child can hear you but can’t see you, that’s even worse.

Or, to put it less traumatically, let’s say you arrive at the room to pick up your child, and your child is busy playing and doesn’t see you right away. “So how’d it go?” you ask the caregiver, and all of a sudden, your child’s head whips around toward you. He registers the fact that Hallelujah! It’s Mommy!, and makes a mad rush toward you.

You could have been standing there for five minutes watching him, with other mothers talking all around you, while your child remained deeply absorbed in his play. But the minute he hears your voice—your voice, as opposed to any other mommy’s voice—he homes in on you and runs into your arms.

I think this kind of response is exactly what Jesus was referring to when He talked about sheep not following a shepherd whose voice they didn’t recognize. He knew the sheep would hear the voice of other shepherds. But they would reserve their best response for the shepherd whose voice they know.

God wants no less from us. He wants to be so special to us that His voice is the one we attend to, even in the midst of other (perhaps very necessary) pursuits. He expects us to hear those other voices—our children, our husband, our family and friends, our boss, our society—but His desire is that the minute we hear His voice, all those other voices become secondary. He wants to capture our focus merely by speaking, to know that we are so constantly attuned to His voice that we will hear Him even above all the other voices clamoring for our attention, and that we’ll respond.

May His voice become more known, more beloved to us, than any other. May we never focus so completely on earthly voices that we have no attention left for the Voice we most need to hear. And when that Voice speaks, may we respond like a little child:

Hallelujah! Daddy’s here!

John 10:3-5—“The sheep listen to [the shepherd’s] voice. He calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. When he has brought out all his own, he goes on ahead of them, and his sheep follow him because they know his voice. But they will never follow a stranger…because they do not recognize a stranger’s voice.” (NIV)

Just Love Them

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This devotional begins with a story that has to do with my husband, not my children. But the principle God taught me is equally applicable in a mother-child relationship as it is in a husband-wife relationship. So whether or not you’re married, please read to the end.

While my husband and I have many things in common, we also have some differences. Sometimes, those differences come in the area of opinions. And what sometimes makes it really tough to resolve a conflict that arises over a difference of opinion is that nobody’s sinning. For example, in the case of this recurring dilemma that had cropped up yet again for me, I couldn’t say, “Well, Phil is sinning, so he should be the one to give in.”

He wasn’t sinning. I wasn’t, either. So what should I do? How should I respond?

Those are the questions I asked God. What do I do, God? How do I act toward my husband?

Suddenly, without even having to pray very long this time, God’s answer reached my spiritual ears, loud and clear: Just love him.

Yes. Love.

Jesus seemed to think love was pretty important, too. He told the religious leaders that the greatest command of all was to love God, and the second most important was to love others. At the last supper, He underscored His own words by framing it as a new command to His disciples: Love one another.

Granted, just loving someone doesn’t mean we’ll always know what to do or how to treat them. But love should be the starting place of our actions and even thoughts toward any other person, including, yes, our husband—but also our precious children.

Too often, in the hustle and bustle and confusion of parenting, we forget this. It’s not that we mean to forget, or that we don’t love our children in that moment. It’s just that sometimes we’re busy, or distracted. Or tired. Or annoyed. And we react out of how we feel at the moment instead of stepping back, emotionally speaking, and then entering the interaction purposefully, from a starting point of unconditional love.

We make our interactions with others all about ourselves—what we like, what we want, what will please us—instead of asking, What would loving this other person look like right now?

Let’s be completely, heartbreakingly honest: sometimes we love ourselves more than we love our children.

Oh, God, we need Your help! Help us to love You first and others second—not ourselves first, and You and others only when (and if) we feel like it. May we never act towards others with anything but love, following the example of Your Son, who never did anything less or anything else than love. Amen.

Mark 12:30-31—“ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” (NIV)

John 13:34—A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.