How to Grow Closer to God

Priorities

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Sometimes, it takes a conversation with a six-year-old to give you a wakeup call.

Easter Sunday morning, Timmy was cuddling on my lap. “Timmy, today is Easter!” one of his siblings said.

Figuring I should do my duty and make sure he knew what Easter was all about, I asked, “Timmy, do you know what we celebrate on Easter?”

“Finding Easter eggs!” Timmy said immediately. “And Jesus coming out of the grave.”

Here are the thoughts that went through my head: Oops. Maybe I should have spent more time teaching him about Easter. Wait, no, he knows what Easter is about. He’s just excited about the Easter egg hunt we’ll be having this afternoon. Can’t blame him for that; he’s only six. When he’s an adult, he’ll place more priority on Jesus than on plastic eggs.

Or will he?

If Timmy’s like me, he’ll have to remind himself to focus more on Jesus than on the trappings of whatever season we’re talking about. I know Jesus is way more important than—well, than anything else, really, yet I still find myself putting far more time and energy into buying and stuffing Easter eggs than I do in preparing myself spiritually. I spend more time making sure my kids have suitable Easter outfits to wear to church than I do reading Scripture and praying in preparation for Easter morning, and I suspect I’m not the only one. Maybe you do, too.

True, we’ve heard the Easter story many, many times. Maybe our familiarity with it is the reason we don’t bother spending any time on it. We know that stuff already. Besides, the pastor’s going to preach on it from the pulpit. We don’t need to bother with it on our own.

Or do we?

Oh, yes, we do. If we realized the depth of our need for constant filling by the Holy Spirit and how far we are from being as spiritually mature as we’d like to think, we’d never arrive on Easter Sunday morning with 200 Easter eggs and the realization that we hadn’t spent time with God in who knows how long. We wouldn’t sit down to a delicious dinner that we’d spent more time on than on our spiritual condition.

There’s nothing wrong with Easter eggs or nice dinners. My family and I enjoy both of those things. But before we criticize our children for being more excited about Easter eggs than about Jesus, maybe we should examine our own hearts and see if we don’t do the very same thing.

Our actions will show what we truly believe is most important.

Luke 24:6—“He is not here, for He has been raised.” (MGT)

Like Hamsters in a Wheel

Okay, so, science.

I’m not very good at it and never have been, really. I do all right with simple scientific principles such as “don’t combine baking soda with vinegar unless you want a volcano” and “plant a seed in the right kind of dirt, give it the right amount of water and sun, and it will grow”. I even find basic science (as in the really basic kind) pretty interesting sometimes.

It can also be pretty funny now and then, as in the video above. One hamster is running in a wheel that’s lying down. The challenge for poor little Puffy (or whatever his name is) is that the ground is spinning beneath his feet. Puffy is running in place as fast as he can, in order to keep from being spun off into oblivion.

Then, Muffy comes walking along, and she sees Puffy running for his life. She thinks, “Hey, that looks like fun”, so she climbs in and starts running, too. The two of them run together for a little while, until, WHOAH, Muffy can’t keep up and gets plastered to the outer wall of the wheel as she goes helplessly spinning around and around.

Eventually, she gets back to her feet, and she joins Puffy, who is still running. Now they’re both running in place, until, YIKES, Muffy loses it again, and then spins into Puffy, causing him to lose it too.

Okay, so here’s the point: I hate to ruin a fun, cute little video (it has hamsters, for pete’s sake), but there are tons of spiritual implications in this for us, as well.

You and I have all had times when we felt like Puffy and Muffy, being spun around against our will and out of our control. Somehow, we get our feet back under us, and then, BAM!, it happens again. We’re spinning.

Sometimes, it’s because we don’t stay as close to the center as we should.

There are times in every mom’s spiritual life when she feels like she’s this close to losing it. Like she’s running as fast as she can and can barely keep up. And sometimes, no matter how fast she runs, she will get swept off her feet and spun out of control.

But it’s a lot less likely to happen if she’s staying close to the center.

It has to do with force—the scientific kind of force. Whether you’re a hamster on a wheel or a kid on a merry-go-round at the park, the most stable place to be is right at the center. As you leave the center and get closer to the edge, the forces are greater. You’re much more likely to get ripped off the edge of a crazily spinning merry-go-round than you are off the center.

Spiritually speaking, you’re a lot less likely to get swept away when you’re staying close to Jesus. When you’re clinging to Him, it’s a lot harder for Satan or circumstances to fling you into out-of-control-ness.

So what are you doing to make sure you’re running in the center of the bowl? You don’t want to fall, and you don’t want to take anyone down with you, as poor Muffy did, just because you failed to do what you knew you were supposed to do—to stay center.

Stay center, moms. It’s more than science. It’s good spiritual practice.

Psalm 63:8—My soul clings to You; Your right hand upholds me. (ESV)

Housecleaning

Cleaning Lady ChargeI’ve heard it said that trying to keep your house clean when you have young children is like trying to brush your teeth while eating Oreos.

I’ve also heard it likened to trying to shovel your driveway while it’s still snowing.

I can identify with both of these. I’ve never exactly kept an immaculate house (well, until I began nesting while pregnant with my first child), but I’ve gotten a lot better in recent years. At least, I think I have. It’s hard to tell when the house is so often a wreck.

Do I just need to try harder? Do I need to be better and more diligent at teaching my kids to clean up after themselves? Is keeping a clean house while I have young children even possible, anyway?? (If you have five children ages 11 and under, and you are a stay-at-home mom, and you homeschool, and you keep your house neat and clean on a regular basis with no outside help, then by all means, let me know how you do it! Seriously!)

But as nice as it would be to have a clean house often enough that, when we are cleaning, my kids don’t ask, “Is someone coming over?”, it would be even nicer (and even more important) to have a clean spiritual “house.”

Just as there are things that clutter up our physical houses, so there are things that clutter up our spiritual houses. Not Legos and artwork and stuffed animals, but slander and obscene talk and deceit. We’re commanded to get rid of such things as these (see Eph. 4:31, Col. 3:8, and 1 Peter 2:1), but too often, we leave them lying around where they’re bound to get in the way again.

Getting rid of the clutter in your house is great, but you also want to make sure there’s no dirt coating the kitchen sink, the toilet, or the floors. If you’re going to clean your spiritual house, you need not only to declutter it, but to remove the filth (sin) that clings to it. While it is true that Jesus cleansed us from all our sins when He died on the cross for us, and that His perfectly righteous life stands in the place of our sinful one, it’s also true that we still sin on a pretty regular basis. We need to be quick to confess our sins and receive the forgiveness and cleansing God has promised us (see 1 John 1:9), not leave the filth lying around.

We also need to keep our physical houses aired out. If you’ve ever owned a vacation home (yeah, I haven’t either), or been to one that hasn’t been used in awhile, you know that even a clean home can begin to smell musty when it hasn’t been used for a long time. The only thing you can do is open doors or windows to get fresh air circulating. To put that in terms of our spiritual house, we need to be receiving a regular influx of the Holy Spirit’s ministry to us. He is the One who refreshes us spiritually. He lives in the heart of each mom who has acknowledged Jesus as her Lord, but it’s a whole lot easier for Him to minister to us when we are putting ourselves in a position to hear from Him. Are we neglecting Bible reading, prayer, or corporate worship? No wonder our spiritual house smells musty!

It’s not easy to keep our physical houses clean. In fact, it’s really hard. I would love to have a maid to help me.

It’s not easy to keep our spiritual houses clean, either. It’s sometimes really hard not to sin, or to do the things we know we should do. But even better than having a maid to help us keep our physical house clean, we have God Himself to help us keep our spiritual house clean. He’ll show us what needs to get tossed out and what we need to start doing. And then He’ll give us the strength and wisdom to do it.

But we have to be willing to take action. If we had enough money, we could hire a maid (or a whole team of maids) to clean our physical house while we sat around and did nothing. But God doesn’t work like that. He’s not going to bestow a clean spiritual house upon us while we just continue dirtying it up or sit around not caring that it’s dirty. We have to cooperate by doing what He shows us to do—or not do.

Are you ready and willing to clean your spiritual house?

Ask Him to show you where and how to get started.

Psalm 139:23-24—Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting! (ESV)

Getting Back in Shape…Again

RunnerThis morning, I alternated running and walking for 2 miles. I also installed the My Fitness Pal app on my phone and computer and began keeping track of my food intake so this app can help me determine how many calories I need and monitor how many I’m actually getting. I’ve upped my water intake, and I didn’t use creamer in my coffee this morning.

But lest you be impressed with me, I must confess to this: I haven’t done anything like this in quite awhile. That’s why I need to do it now.

6 months ago, I was in the best shape of my life. I was eating healthy and exercising regularly. My muscles were well-defined. I felt strong, and my body felt somehow “clean.” But then the thought occurred to me that I didn’t want to eat so strictly for the rest of my life; nor did I want to worry so much about exercise. So I started eating whatever I wanted (oh, the bliss!), and I stopped exercising.

I gained 25 pounds and a size and a half in terms of clothing. I had to buy new pants since I no longer fit into any of my old ones. But I was happy. I was still at what most of society would consider a small clothing size, and I decided I was content with that.

Until I went to the doctor for routine bloodwork and discovered that I had high cholesterol. Way high.

Well, nuts. So much for eating whatever I wanted. Now I have to start eating healthy, not for my figure’s sake, but for my overall health. I want to be around a long time, and I want to be healthy while I’m here. Hence, the return to running, exercising, and eating right.

It’s going to take a lot of energy and discipline to change my habits so drastically. But it’s worth it if it means I’ll live longer and maybe get to see my grandchildren or even great-grandchildren.

I wonder, though…with all this effort that I’m putting into taking care of my body, which won’t last forever…am I putting in anything close to the same level of effort in taking care of my spirit, which will last for eternity?

Some days, yes. I have my devotional time with God. I pray and read my Bible. If it’s Sunday or Wednesday, I attend church. I try to apply what I’m learning to my life.

But some days, no. I get “too busy” to have my devotional time, or I forget. I attend church, but I don’t concentrate on the sermon or lesson. I forget to make application to my life of what I know to be true—or I remember that I should do so, but decide not to.

Some of you may be in the same situation I am, in terms of spending your time and energy taking care of other things and neglecting your spirit. But there ought to be a disconnect in our minds between devoting all our energies to temporary things and neglecting the eternal. It shouldn’t make sense to us.

I’m not saying we have to spend more hours reading our Bible or praying than we do cooking, exercising, or taking care of our other responsibilities. It’s mathematically impossible; there just aren’t enough hours in the day. But if we focus on our earthly responsibilities and possessions to the exclusion of our eternal ones, something’s wrong. If we find ourselves willing to put plenty of effort into things that matter for a little while but unwilling to make time for things that matter forever, we’re on the wrong path.

If you don’t really desire to put much time into spiritual things, you need to pray for God to change your heart and realign your priorities. If the desire is there, but you can’t figure out a way to make it happen, then ask God. He’ll tell you. Consult your friends (or me!) to find out what they do to make it work (though remember that your devotional time doesn’t have to look exactly like theirs).

Make it your goal to nourish your spirit, even more than you nourish your body. Train yourself to focus on what really matters—not just what matters for now.

If we live to be 100, and we’re still fit and healthy in body, that’s good. But if our body is healthy but our spirit is malnourished, we’ve been pursuing the wrong goal.

Don’t spend your life putting all your efforts into chasing after what’s temporary—bodily health, material possessions, or even the elusive “happiness.” Set your sights much higher.

Set them on eternity.

1 Timothy 4:7-8—Have nothing to do with irreverent, silly myths. Rather train yourself for godliness; for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come. (ESV)

2 Corinthians 4:18—So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.

Getting in the Game

Sports ballsI really love certain sports. Some, I enjoy watching; some, I really enjoy playing; and some, I love doing either one. It’s not that I’m very good at sports (except for racquetball and jiu jitsu); in fact, I’m no better than average, and sometimes worse. It’s just that I love the contest, the “giving it everything I’ve got,” the physical and mental striving, and the fun of the sport in question.

When the Olympics come around, I have the TV on for hours each day. In between Olympics, I also watch other sporting events. Of course, it’s even better if my favorite team is playing. Then, I feel like I have a personal stake in the outcome.

For Super Bowl XLIX this year, however, I’m not a fan of either team that is playing. My team didn’t make it this year, so I don’t care much about the outcome of the Big Game. I plan on watching it, because I enjoy football and I want to see the commercials (and, well, I want an excuse to eat junk food), but I don’t really care who wins.

Many of my friends feel the same way. They don’t have a team in the game, either. Still others of my friends don’t care about the final score because they don’t care about football, or even about sports in general.

This perspective—not caring about the outcome because we’re not invested in the struggle taking place—is fine when we’re talking about football. But it becomes a problem when we’re talking about struggles that take place in real life.

Scripture tells us that we as Christians are all members of the same body, that is, the Body of Christ. It also says that the parts of the Body cannot say they don’t need each other or are not part of the Body. Like a physical body, if one part of the Body suffers or rejoices, all the parts suffer or rejoice with it.

The problem is that we don’t always apply this to our relationships. We look at the struggles of others, and we say, “Well, that doesn’t really affect me.” Or , “Wow, thank God I’m not going through that.”

If we truly realized how intimately connected we are, we’d be a lot more concerned about what is happening to members of our body. Because the truth is, no matter how unaffected we may feel, we are affected. Scripture says so.

When our Christian brothers and sisters around the world are tortured or even killed for their faith, we should take it personally, because it affects part of our body. When a friend is struggling with depression, discouragement, or loneliness, her struggle should matter to us, because she is part of us. When someone is mistreated, overwhelmed, sick, or at her wits’ end, we should treat her as we would treat our own body—because she is our body.

It’s sometimes difficult to know how to come alongside someone and support her. But instead of doing nothing, let’s ask God how to help. Sometimes, God may tell us to step in, in a physical, emotional, or financial sense. Other times, He may instruct us to work behind the scenes in prayer or in enlisting others to help, with no direct involvement ourselves. It’s up to Him how He wants to use us. But we need to make ourselves available for Him to use.

If the school nurse, daycare provider, or preschool teacher called from your child’s school saying your child had fallen on the playground and needed stitches, you’d take immediate action. Why? Because you love your child, and because your child is a part of you.

It should be the same with your Christian brothers and sisters. What happens to them should matter to you. Because they are a part of your body just as much as you are.

If you’re like me, and you sometimes get caught up in your own life and focus on yourself rather than on others, you need to ask God to help you not forget the rest of your body. Ask Him to show you how to be sensitive to others, even in the midst of whatever’s going on in with you. Because in caring for others, you’re caring for yourself as well.

1 Corinthians 12:26—If one part [of the body] suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.

Experiencing Beauty

Timmy on trampolineA month or two ago, my husband and I bought our kids a trampoline for the back yard as an early Christmas present. Since then, the kids have used the trampoline almost every day—if not every day. Timmy loves the trampoline, too. He loves bouncing, jumping, and running in circles on it, giggling in delight.

The other day, I was sitting on our front porch watching Timmy play in the front yard. After a little while, he came up to me and said, “I want to go on the trampoline.”

“Okay,” I said. “Go ahead.”

“You can come, too,” Timmy offered hopefully.

“No, thank you,” I said. (Normally, I love the trampoline, but I was right in the middle of something.)

But Timmy didn’t give up. “Come on!” he pleaded. “It’s gonna be…beautiful!”

My heart melted. How could I refuse an invitation like that? “Okay!” I said enthusiastically, getting up to follow Timmy as he ran into the backyard.

And you know what? It was a beautiful time. The weather was great (about 70 degrees, despite its being the middle of December), and I got to spend some time with my precious son, see him enjoying the gift we had given him, and hear his delighted giggles.

If I hadn’t accepted his invitation, I would indeed have missed a beautiful time.

I wonder…how many beautiful times have I missed with God because I didn’t want to come along with Him?

God invites me (and you) to be with Him every day. To talk to Him, to bask in His presence, to learn from Him, to simply hang out together. If you regularly take advantage of the opportunities He offers you, great! But if you’re like me, and you sometimes miss the chance to spend time with Him because you’re too busy, or you aren’t paying attention and thus never hear His invitation, or you simply don’t want to go where He’s going, you’re missing out on something beautiful.

There is a beautiful component to everything God asks us to walk with Him through, but we don’t always see it. It’s too hard, we whine, or That doesn’t sound like fun, or I’m too busy. We consider the opportunity, and if there’s anything negative about it, we decline. True, we might avoid some of the negative aspects, but we also miss the “something beautiful” that God wanted us to delight in.

What beautiful thing does God want to show you in the midst of something difficult right now? What beauty does He want to bring out of circumstances that are challenging or even tragic?

Motherhood definitely falls in the “challenging” category sometimes (often?). You and I have the choice to focus either on the fact that the kids have been bickering all day and the laundry isn’t done and we’re tired, or on the beauty that is present even in the midst of the chaos. Beauty like the fact that we have wonderful children (even if they may not be acting wonderful right now), or like our children’s hugs or even those pictures they draw where you’re not sure what the object is, but they present the artwork to you with pride.

Maybe you’re struggling with health issues, with financial concerns, or with grief. Those things aren’t beautiful in and of themselves, but even in the midst of them, you can experience the beauty of God’s presence, close and intimate in ways He might not be apart from the difficult circumstances. Or maybe you’ll experience the beauty of friends coming alongside you, or of God’s unexpected provision.

I don’t claim to understand how God brings beauty out of ugliness. I just know that He does.

Nor do I claim to know exactly what kind of beauty God will bring from your situation. I just know that He will. How do I know? Because He’s promised.

Don’t stay focused on the negatives when God’s inviting you to experience beauty, when He says, “Come on! It’s going to be beautiful.”

Believe Him. Go look for the beauty.

Isaiah 61:3—To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified.

Living It Out: How to Respond When Someone Hurts You

prayerMy 8-year-old daughter, Lindsey, is a kind and generous girl. She has a sweetness about her spirit that could only come from the Lord. She’s caring and compassionate, and she’s quick to reach out to those in need. Not only that, but she believes the best of everyone with whom she comes in contact.

That’s why it was especially hurtful when a neighborhood child stole some toys she had trusted him with.

This child (whom I’ll call Bobby) and his siblings frequently played at our house. This time, when he came over, Lindsey let him use some of her things so that he could play in the front yard with Kenny while she and the girls played together in the backyard. All was fine until Lindsey came back to check on her property and discovered it was missing.

Bobby told Lindsey where he had put the property away. Lindsey checked and didn’t see it. Believing that she would find it upon closer inspection, she said nothing to me about it until, two days later, a closer inspection revealed that the property was definitely not where Bobby had said it was.

It was gone.

We carefully evaluated what might have happened to it. But when we determined that Bobby was the only one who had access to it, and that it was not where he claimed he had returned it, Lindsey and I went to talk to Bobby and his mother.

During the conversation, Bobby denied the theft but changed his story multiple times. I calmly but firmly pointed out the physical impossibility of some of the things he was claiming, and I shared the reasons for our suspicions that he had taken the cards. Bobby’s mother declined to consider anything we said and became offended that we would think her son might be stealing from us (despite his record of previous, albeit different, offenses against our family). She told us her kids would no longer play with ours because we had suspected him. Unable to make any headway, we calmly thanked her for her time and left quietly.

I was angry. Mess with me, that’s one thing; mess with my children, that’s quite another. But I knew that the way I handled this incident would serve not only as an example for Lindsey, but for our other children as well. And I knew that Jesus’ way is always best, even when it isn’t the way I might feel like responding.

So I did my best not only to comfort Lindsey, who was deeply sad (I was too), but also to use this experience to teach her some life lessons.

First, we need to be careful whom we trust. I’m not suggesting that we walk around suspicious of everyone we meet. But when it comes to trusting someone in an important matter, we must be careful whom we choose to trust, because not everyone will prove trustworthy. It may not be wise to trust someone you’ve just met with your deepest thoughts and feelings; it is definitely not wise to trust someone who has a track record of hurting you.

Second, when people mistreat us, we have a choice as to how to respond. We can either respond in kind and mistreat them right back; or we can choose Jesus’ way and be kind to them despite what they’ve done to us. Yes, we may have to take steps to protect ourselves from them (Bobby wouldn’t have been allowed back into our yard or home anyway, even if his mother hadn’t prohibited him from coming), but we can still treat them with kindness. It was right for Lindsey and me to go to Bobby’s house and try to resolve the issue with him and his mother; it would have been wrong for us to go there and become harsh or disrespectful with our words.

Third—and this is the one I tend to forget—we need to pray for those who have hurt us. “You know, Jesus tells us to pray for our enemies,” I said gently to Lindsey. “We need to pray for Bobby.” “I already have been,” Lindsey said. Not just praying that he would return the property, but praying that God would convict his heart and bring him into a relationship with Jesus. We also prayed together.

Fourth, we need to remember that we ourselves are sinners. Before Lindsey and I went to Bobby’s house, we prayed together. We prayed that God would give us the right words and attitude, and we prayed that Bobby and his mother would respond well. We also thanked God for His forgiveness which He is willing to extend to all repentant sinners, which we (not just Bobby) need to receive as well.

Finally, we forgive. Forgiveness does not mean that we say that what the offender did was okay (it wasn’t). Nor do we say that it didn’t hurt us (it did). Nor does it necessarily mean we give him or her the opportunity to do it again (there are times when it is good and right to set boundaries to protect ourselves). What it does mean is that we choose not to take revenge against or punish the offender ourselves, but rather leave that up to God and/or the legal system.

It’s hard to react rightly when someone has sinned against us, and especially when that person doesn’t admit the offense or isn’t sorry. But by responding the way Jesus would have us respond, we not only please the Lord and bring Him glory, but we also benefit ourselves. That’s because God blesses those who follow Him and His ways with spiritual blessings, not the least of which is His “peace that passeth understanding” (see Phil. 4:7).

Don’t trade the peace and other spiritual blessings you could be experiencing for the temporary and only partial satisfaction of staying angry or taking revenge. Trust God that what He has planned for you in the wake of the sin that’s been committed against you is far better than what you could devise for yourself.

Luke 6:28—Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.

Preparing for Christmas

nativityEach year, on the day after Thanksgiving, we get out the Christmas decorations and put them all up. Long before that, I start planning what to give each person on my list. I also start marking my calendar with the dates and times of all the holiday events scheduled by groups of which I am (or some other family member is) a part. Then, in December, I or we attend all those events. But wait…there’s more! There’s all the wrapping of presents, baking holiday goodies, and planning and packing for getting to Grandma and Pampa’s house before December 25th.

You probably do many, if not all, of these things, too. There’s lots to be done to prepare for Christmas.

We’re pretty good at getting these kinds of things done. Because after all, they “have” to be done. They’re not optional.

There’s nothing wrong with doing these things. The problem comes in when we treat social and cultural preparations as necessary and spiritual preparation as optional. When we’re so focused on what we’re going to buy for whom or what activity comes next that we forget (or don’t have time) to focus on the One this celebration is all about.

I can’t tell how much time it should take to prepare oneself and one’s family spiritually for Christmas. That number would be different for every home. Nor can I tell you specifically what you should do in order to prepare. Again, that will be different for every family. But I can tell you that if you focus on the gifts to the exclusion of focusing on the Giver, you’re missing out. If you get so caught up in the trappings of Christmas that you miss the chance to contemplate its amazing spiritual beauty, your Christmas hasn’t been what it could have been.

It’s easy to let spiritual things get pushed aside, especially in December. There are so many other things clamoring for our attention that the “still, small voice” gets lost in the hubbub. We wind up observing the temporal traditions surrounding Christ’s birth but missing out on the deeper, eternal realities.

If we’re going to spend the time we need to spend focusing on Jesus instead of the chaos of the season, we’ll have to be intentional about it. If we just leave it for “when we have time”, it won’t happen.

I encourage you to spend some time giving serious consideration to how you will observe and meditate upon the true meaning of Christmas this year, as well as how you might share it with others. Will you determine to finish your Christmas shopping in November so that you will have more time in December to focus on Advent? Will you do an Advent activity with your children each day, beginning December 1? Will your family have special devotional times in addition to attending whatever services your church offers?

What will you do to make sure your children understand what Christmas is really about and see that lived out, not just paid lip service to?

Think about it. Pray about it. Plan for it. And celebrate Christmas as it was meant to be.

Colossians 3:2—Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. (ESV)

Too Much Stuff

Riley Center RoomDo you ever look around at your house and wish you could get rid of half the stuff you own?

I do, especially after times like this past weekend, when I led a retreat for moms and stayed in a really nice hotel room for two days. With only the room furnishings and the items in the carry-on-sized suitcase I’d brought with me, I did just fine. In fact, it was kind of nice to spend two whole days in a place that was clean and uncluttered.

When I got home, I found that after two days of more spartan living, my house seemed even more cluttered than it had before I left. Now, I’m wishing I could somehow go through my home and get rid of at least half the stuff we own. Maybe more.

It’s not that our house is bad, by American standards. It’s just that I really enjoyed living with the basics for a little while, and I’d like to get closer to that in our home. I am more at peace when my home is uncluttered and neat. If giving up a bunch of stuff is what it takes to make that happen, I think it just might be worth it.

For that matter, I’d probably benefit from de-cluttering my spiritual house, too. Maybe you’d like to clean out yours, as well. Let’s look at three things we could get rid of.

First, let’s get rid of anything out of place that might trip us up. Just as leaving toys on the floor can cause us to fall, so can leaving sins lying around. When I see toys lying around, I’m tempted to leave them there until I can do something about them later—or until I can get somebody else (namely, the kids) to do something about them. Leaving sins undealt with until some future time, or hoping someone else will do something about them, however, is even worse than leaving a toy in the middle of the living room floor. If I trip over the toy, I might hurt myself, though probably not very badly. But if my sin trips me up, the risk of spiritual damage is far greater.

Next, let’s get rid of the books on our shelves that contain information that is inaccurate. We have a beautiful set of built-in shelves in our home that my husband constructed when we were remodeling the dining room. Most of those shelves are filled with books. Many of the books contain teachings based on the truth of God’s Word. But if there were any that espoused ideas that were actually contrary to Scripture, I would want to get rid of those. Likewise, we need to get rid of the books in our spiritual shelves that are filled with Satan’s lies. Books with titles like You’re Worthless or God Doesn’t Love You or You’re a Terrible Mom. Wherever these lies came from, whether our parents or society or somewhere else, they originated from the pit of hell. Satan loves it when we keep these books on our shelves, and especially when we read them over and over again. They’re his favorites, too. So let’s get rid of them and replace them with titles like You are Fearfully and Wonderfully Made or God is Madly in Love with You or You’re a Great Mom.

Third, let’s get rid of anything that’s no good anymore: the leftovers in the fridge that have been there too long, the expired medications, the clothes that can’t be mended, the furniture that’s no longer sturdy. These things were good for you at one time, but not anymore. Now they’re either of no use to you, or outright harmful. Spiritually speaking, perhaps you have some relationships that need to be reevaluated in terms of how much contact you should continue to have with that person due to the way they treat you or the influence they have upon you. Maybe there are some activities your family participates in that, while not bad in and of themselves, are not longer suitable for your family’s interests or schedule. Is there a goal you’ve been trying to reach that you need to realize is not God’s will for you? Get rid of it too.

If I were to get rid of a large portion of the things my family and I own, I would enjoy the simplicity and peace of having to deal with fewer possessions. If I clean my spiritual house, I know I will receive even greater benefits. You will too, if you clean yours.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a more intimate relationship with God? Wouldn’t you love for your soul to be more relaxed and at peace?

Clean your spiritual house.

Daniel 12:10—Many shall purify themselves and make themselves [spotless] and be refined, but the wicked shall act wickedly. And none of the wicked shall understand, but those who are wise shall understand.

Making Memories

This past week, my oldest three children attended summer camp. Timmy, at 2 years old, wasn’t really old enough to understand what he was missing out on. But 6-year-old Jessica was. And she was bummed.

Jess on slideIn order to make the week special for her, too, I decided that each day the older kids were at camp, Jessica, Timmy, and I would do something Jessica considered special. On the first four days, we did things like riding a miniature train through the largest city park (and stopping to buy popcorn halfway through); going out to eat; going to Bath & Body Works, smelling the different scented products, and buying Jessica some hand sanitizer; playing games; and going to one of our favorite parks that has a sandbox.

On Friday, the last day of camp, Jessica wanted to go to our smaller, neighborhood park—“our” park, as we call it. So I let Timmy and Jessica climb into the wagon, and I pulled them the two-and-a-half blocks to the park. Once there, I let them play on whatever they wanted, and I pushed them on the merry-go-round and the swings. I also took a few pictures to remember the day by.

But it wasn’t until later, as I was looking at one of those pictures on my computer, that I thought, We moms take plenty of pictures of the special times in our children’s and family’s lives. We want to make sure we remember those days. But what do we do to make sure we remember the special times with God? What do we put in place to guarantee that we won’t forget the things He’s done for us or the special memories we’ve made with Him?

If you’re like me, the answer is that you don’t do all that much to remember. Oh, sure, when God supplies us or our husband with a new job or rescues us from some difficulty (such as illness or financial disaster), we post about it on Facebook so everyone can “like” it and congratulate us. But what do we do to make sure that God’s mighty act doesn’t get lost in the general busyness of life, but gets passed down to our children (and maybe even grandchildren) so that it becomes part of the fabric of their memories and spiritual lives?

Many times in the Bible, the children of Israel are commanded to remember God and His deeds in some very real and tangible way. For example, in Joshua 4, when they are about to cross the Jordan River, God commands Joshua to choose 12 men (one for each of the tribes of Israel) and to command them to take up stones from the middle of the Jordan, and then to set them up on the other side of the river as a memorial to God’s mighty act in cutting off the flow of the Jordan before the Ark of the Covenant so that the people could cross. These stones were to be a memorial to the people of Israel forever.

All throughout Scripture, God commands observances to be made in order to remember His great acts on behalf of His children. There are many festivals instituted for this purpose (Passover and The Lord’s Supper are only two examples). It was obviously quite important to God that we remember what He has done for us.

It still is.

So how can we make it a point to remember? There are many ways. We could record instances of His love and deliverance in a journal and make it a point to get out the journal and read it periodically. We could institute our own family festival to commemorate the day God did something very special in our family’s life. We could make up songs about the event and teach them to our children.

These are only a few examples. You can probably think of many more. The point isn’t so much what you do, as that you do something.

Thank God for the evidences of His mighty love and care toward you. Find a way to teach them to your children and make them a part of your family’s spiritual heritage. Remember them—not just once, or as long as it takes for your Facebook post to get buried in people’s news feeds—but forever.

We all know we’re supposed to celebrate God and what He has done. But we can’t do it if we don’t remember.

1 Samuel 17:12—Then Samuel took a stone and set it up between Mizpah and Shen. He named it Ebenezer, saying, “Thus far has the LORD helped us.”

Psalm 107:8—Let them give thanks to the LORD for his unfailing love and his wonderful deeds for men.

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